To
build a great house, you need a strong foundation upon which to assemble all
the other pretty things. To build a great man, you also need a solid foundation
upon which to add all the other little things that set the real men apart from
the stronzos. Let's not piss around, the stuff inside matters
most.
Over
the years and the personal experiences that I have had about life and men, one
of the most strongest ones have been that there are hardly good men around in
the city.
M:
Master
A:
Arrogant
N: Nasty
Most
women today rate a man in the above three categories, and why not, after all
the incidents that we see and hear in the news portal these days, it’s one
thing that is obvious.
It is
believed that a man is a bread earner and a woman is a home maker, but what
when the bread earner sits at home drunk and beats his home maker to death. It
is this bread earner who goes on the road and rapes a woman and throws her to
die on the road, abuse her beat her, tear her apart and then does not even have
the courtesy to wrap her and give her first aid medication, forget about
respecting her.
It is
these bread earners who force their daughters into marriage just to get a
burden rid of their heads and throughout their lives makes them realize about
how grateful they have been to their girls. No matter, what happens to them
after their marriage is not even a question of concern but yes they have
fulfilled their responsibility so they are not to be blamed.
Only a
5% of the entire male population can be termed as the actual MEN who are not
just good at heart but also respect their ladies and daughters.
The
next question that comes is, “What does it take to be a real man?”
Answer:
Following are the traits that a real man possesses rather I should say should
possess:
- A real
Man is good at reading and writing, if he is good in at-least one of these,
then I am sure he has the real sense of what is right and what is wrong.
- A real
Man is the one who is good at literature, only then he can understand the true
meaning of what is written in the scriptures.
- A real
Man is focused and strong. By strong do not relate it to the physical strength,
I also mean that he should have a backbone and should be able to take mature
decisions in life. He is not the one who is a cry baby and is focused about
what is extracted the best out of life. He is the one who knows the difference
between what is right and what is wrong and knows how to handle power, friends,
family and money.
- A real
man knows the importance of family. He realizes its essence and values. He
knows that his lady and children are his responsibilities and knows that family
is not abused but in a way worshipped.
- A real
Man strives to be a role model and does not loaf around boasting about himself
and does not gossip about what is happening in someone’s life. Instead, he tries
to give his genuine advice and opinion and in case he cannot help he shuts
himself and provides moral support.
- A real
Man sticks to his opinion and believes in establishing life long bonds. Say for
ex. If he loves someone then he will love that person throughout his life no
matter if that person is immature and is not able to give her best.
- A real
Man makes his own future and does not depend on what his ancestors have left
for him.
- A real
Man knows that it is he who has taken the responsibility for managing his
family and that he has to take decisions that would abide by his family’s
wishes.
- Finally,
a real Man makes his decisions and lives with its consequences.
To conclude with, I would
like to add that a real MAN is the one who is modest, caring, understanding and
the one who respects woman for what they are.
I know in today’s world it
is almost impossible to find such men, but as far as I know, I have met both
the categories of men, by this I mean I have seen a real Man, the one that I
have described in my article and yes I have seen the Male Hippocrates as well.
PS: It is difficult to find
a real man, but yes they do exist. Wish all men could turn into real MEN.
